When I write the messages on Tell Her Before I die, I usually don't mean to say something inspirational or motivational. This is my outlet for my thoughts and feelings about you, from the most direct to the most tangential. However, when I talk to friends who are troubled, some more troubled than I am, I do try hard to help. I try to say things right and I try to help them progress. This morning I was talking to one such friend, and I made a certain statement that I wanted to share with you.
You can only tell the truth about what you feel. Nobody can tell the truth about their limits. They always see limits where there aren't any. Too often I say, "I can't just stop being depressed." That's probably not true. I could probably just snap my fingers and stop being depressed. It would likely wreck me mentally, but I could still do it. The reason I haven't done this is because I feel that I shouldn't simply stop; I need to truly recover. "Can we?" isn't what we should be asking. The real question is, "How can we?" I could just stop being depressed, but instead I want to work through it. I want to learn and improve, so that I can turn around and help.
We shouldn't simply say, "No, can't do that." We need to ask, "How could it be done?"
